Every human being has a flaw that they would have to deal with in each and every way. Realizing what it is could be an entirely different story. We as humans have a tendency of not wanting to know what we did wrong, because we are too stubborn to realize that we are capable of doing something wrong. We hate it when people rub issues to make their point. We don't and will never acknowledge that there is any truth in what we hear and what others say about us.

Each of us has something imperfect within ourselves; we don't consider it as an imperfection though until someone makes us see it. For others it could be a simple flaw in grammar, others could be an attitude that prohibits them from interacting with others because other people will not appreciate what they are. Some of us just have this thing within us that really makes them annoying in every possible way.

Human character and behavior is not too easy to understand, and sometimes it really does drive you to insanity. Understanding everyone is just like counting the exact number of stars in the sky or making sure that you know the exact mixture of a crabby Pattie. We are just like Plankton wondering how to go about finding that hidden ingredient and in the end we realize that we may be the missing recipe.

A lot of personality tests could be taken to see how we are alike in certain aspects and how we can be different in more ways than one. Yet, as a human response, these tests are taken so deeply that we would often choose who we want to work with based on how we think the test would impact our working relationship with others. We fail to acknowledge that these tests are conducted by machines and could never measure how willing we are to go far just to be able to respond appropriately to the need of a person or a team.

We are all intelligent, we just use it differently. We are all leaders we just have different ways of showing it. We are all good people; it just takes someone to appreciate what we do. Human logic prevents us to see all these things, because it is our nature to judge. What good would it be if we are all friends and have no one to talk about right? Yet we fail to also see that just because we talk about someone it does not mean these are all bad things.

When we dislike people, we look at what they failed to do for us; we look at what they cannot do in the times that they are needed. We fail to see what they have done for us when we have least expected them to do something. I am in no position to discuss anything about the human behavior; I am no psychologist to basically be able to read what others think. These observations are just based on what I see every day. What better teacher could there be other than experience right?

In a diverse community and place where we stay in, we see a lot of different characters and behaviors. We see a mixture of sorts that would allow us to study human behavior in a perfect manner that they will not see. We tend to be friends with others and for some we develop hatred that goes beyond our imagination, yet the funny thing is sometimes, we don't even know why.

Some characters could be like that. It just makes you undesirable. A few weeks back, I took an assessment together with our team at work. It was called DISC; it measures Dominance, Influence, Steadiness and Compliance/ Consciousness. Although at some point I would say the test holds true to my behavior but it does not mean it is perfectly accurate. My Dominance is way above 50, in fact my numbers could be the highest in the group, and I have the lowest for the last two sections for the S and the C. It bothers me at first because it makes me think how aggressive I would want to be in certain aspects, wondering if it is such a bad thing.

Our human mind would often interpret these details as negative because the word dominance does not entirely mean anything positive, unless we perceive it in a different way. The human mind will stick to the more supreme definition such as someone who wants to take power, control and thinks of himself as someone who is supreme. It is with these definitions that we fail to acknowledge what the other definitions are.

Certainly these assessments have a slight accuracy when it comes to interpreting the human behavior, but one thing we fail to acknowledge is it can change through time. This is because we mature, we learn, we grow and we become wiser. It is and will never be wise to dwell on such readings. It is just similar to believing in your horoscope every day when we know that we create our own destiny.

Apart from these characters and behaviors we have a will to think about. What we feel may not be too right because we think more. As a book said before, our hearts could be stronger than our will but nonetheless we never stop thinking. We assess every time we are in a situation and that makes us superior beings. We may not feel good about what we do but we do it anyway because there are already other factors affecting our behavior and our decisions.

Morality is one of the greatest factors. It is our impact on community and religion. What does God have to say if you do something? What would your teacher say when she finds out how mean you are becoming lately? What would your mother say when she finds out what you have been saying and doing to this person? How would the entire population who knows you would feel if they find out what you say and did that would seem right to you but wrong in their eyes? These are huge factors affecting how we should act towards others. Unless you are insensitive and could not care any less but what others say and think. At the end of the day, you know too well that you will lie in bed wondering what you could have done better.

Another is professionalism; the environment we now belong in is no playground. We have to establish ourselves to have a better career and path to a better development. Our personal character can simply not be a hindrance on how we should be when it comes to dealing with others. If we wish to achieve and become better at what we do, we need to learn how to be civil and how to be morally and professionally right.

Ethics is another factor that should be affecting human behavior. Realizing how ethical our actions are and how it should merit in our daily life and our career standing. Despite all these negative aspects of our characters we need to acknowledge that one way or another we have a way of making others happy. Every individual may seem bad or evil, but one way or the other they have created and have done something good.

We may not have innate leadership skills, or any other talent for that matter but we need to realize that these things can be learned. It may blossom out of a situation or instance when we have to exhibit something that would require us to save and stand for others. We come from different places, different experiences that needs to be shared, one way or another the hardest among human behaviors is the ability to understand that just because a solution to a particular scenario works for you but may not for me. This is because there are already other factors affecting a specific situation that makes it entirely different from what has been experienced.

We need to let go, yes the learning and unlearning process is truly applicable in every situation. Yet we need to realize that the human behavior is not adaptable to change. We dwell on the past; we hang on to what we had, without realizing what we have at the moment. This is the most negative among all our behaviors and characters, because of this we fail to appreciate what we already hold in our hands. We are always in the wanting to be what we used to be but in the current situation. But we can't, and we are not.

We tend to be ahead of the others but we fail to acknowledge if we are in the right footing. We fail to take into consideration that we are still working with a group of people that we may and may not like. Yet we have ourselves accountable for their knowledge and understanding. True that we don't really have to make them understand something if we are not the ones who will suffer from their ignorance about a particular matter but as a human being and a leader we need to realize that we are responsible for the welfare and belief of the people who are working with us.

Our responsibilities don't end to where other people's task starts; in fact it is a long chain and series of events that we need to somehow be in total control of. Just because it is not ours to do, it does not mean that we should not help and be accountable for. However it is not an excuse for others not to do the tasks assigned because we know someone is going to do it for us.

These behaviors affect our daily life. Sometimes it becomes so hard to understand it and we get too weary that we just want out of that current situation. These factors are evidently affecting us not just mentally and physically but more on emotional aspects. This is because human behavior is more of matters affecting the heart. We feel too much, we make sure that our intuitions are put ahead before we even start thinking.

We fail to see that our intuitions could not always be right; we need to balance our head and hearts when it comes to decision making. Understanding the human behavior is tough, it can wear you out in more ways than one. Yet as an impulsive action we push ourselves too hard to understand others and become highly likable by other people, but in the end we see that what we do would never be good enough to gain other people's approval. That is an instinct; others would never allow other people to be better than them. So you will never be able to please everyone. You can die trying but will never see how you succeeded because we know we can't.

I have tried understanding others; it is blowing me out of my wits. Now, it is all becoming clear. We all have different beliefs and ways in life. We have different minds that may or may not allow us to understand everyone we interact with everyday. Yet, if we try to see what each of us can do in a very unfortunate situation we will earn to appreciate the other things in our life. We will learn to appreciate what the people around us can do. It just takes a little push and a little luck to make us see that we are all here for a reason.

The reasons may not be similar, the characters may not fit. We may not always agree but still that's what we are. We are born to agree and disagree. If we can't handle a fact then there is something wrong with us. We are not really meant to be where we are if we fail to acknowledge that we are not always perfectly right about something. If we fail to see that other people could be better than us and yet we know that we have been through a lot or because we are older and we feel that we are wiser, then we are the ones who need to give in. Age and experience may be ripened but it does not mean that these are the only things that make you better than the others.

Innate behaviors, moral maturity and professionalism may have been developed in other people in much better way than any experience and age combined. With this being said, we should respect our diversity. We should not put the fate of our relationship with other people in clear understanding or intuition. We should not rely on tests to interpret how we should be dealing with others to efficiently and productively work with them. Rather we could use it as a stepping stone to understand how we should deal with them to be able to develop a harmonious relationship.

A diverse setting and culture could really help each of us grow professionally because we learn to deal with every possible behavior that we have. However the most perfect growth that we would have is maturity and ability to deal with such differences. We learn and change through time. We don't and will never intend to stay in a way we have always been. It is either we become better or we become worse. The most important thing is having people believe in what we can do to be able to change and adapt to what we have and what we are given.

Life is easy; you just don't have to understand everything there is. The wonders of the universe are really not being able to get what everything is there for. Yet be thankful that it really existed and you get something out of every situation. There are only three things you need to remember, one- stand up for yourself and for anyone else if you have to. "Every man for himself "does not work because of a contradicting thought of no man is an island. Two- speak when you have to, most especially when it greatly affects you and how you perform your tasks. Three- is accountability in everything you do and for the things that people around you does because it would still reflect on you no matter what.

The human behavior is something we can never get away from; we have no means of getting away from it. We live with it and we deal with it in every possible way. It surrounds us and all we have to do is just to make sure that we have a clear thought in dealing with every situation. Everything we do simply reflects on us. Everything we are is made of what we have around us. Life has its ways; we just need to deal with it.